Jan 21, 2010

Can someone get out of the "friend zone"?

Ladies and gentleman, how do people fall into the friend zone? very simple. you are too scared to tell the person you interested in how you really feel. People are not mind readers, you have to be aggressive, not to aggressive, but aggressive enough to show the other person you want something. you want love. lol

First of all, if you are childhood friends and have known this person for a while, trust me, its kinda late to ask this person. Maybe this person likes you, but she or he wont be waiting for you either. People can wait but they cant wait for 5-10years. lol So if you stuck in a childhood friend zone situation, this is what you should do. be honest with the person and tell him or her how you feel. it WILL affect the friendship not might, it will! but love is about taking risks. you have to take the risk. If you spend your life waiting around for your childhood friend to tell u they feel the same way, u will be waiting a very long time haha

Another example is when you meet someone for the first time and you interested in getting to know them. please people. dont ever go in groups if you want to get to know this person. this is common mistake people make. The other person will see this as other friend whose part of the group. One on one time is the best. you get to talk to the person. In a group, you will have "c**blockers" sorry for the language but its true. Groups tend to send this friend vibe. The only time its acceptable to be in a group is when you are in a relationship with someone, not when you are getting to know them. Dont get me wrong. you can do groups but try getting away from the group during the hang out if you can. Body language as well as your actions mean alot. words are nothing to be honest.

Basically, be confident, semi aggressive and understanding. Spend one on one time with person and see how it goes.

Be patient, but also show the other person you are not a friend.

Furthermore, if someone tells you "you are just a friend", they really mean it. dont pursue it. dont stalk!

there you go, blog number 4

1 comment:

Kigen said...

Ok Esteban, is this blog just a weird way of saying you like me? Be honest.
JK.
Nice advice, especially about the group thing.