Lets see...why do people cheat?
5 case studies
1. Person is a player, just looking to have fun.
2. The other person is not doing their job.
3. The person was never looking for something serious. Other person was too aggressive.
4. they are not over their ex
5. My favorite, it just happened but you know I love you.
Lets look at case study number 1.
Players- a person who thinks he or she is the s***.
Before you enter a relationship, you must be able to know the other persons past. You DO NOT stalk them, but know something about their sexual life. Never enter a relationship blind, because you will end up heart broken. Its fairly easy to spot a player. For women, its easier to spot a guy player because we all know.. girls love to talk.
For guys, its a little bit harder, but we risk it. Women know how to keep secrets from men because they have the art of seduction. If a women is a true player, she will know how to hide her sexual encounters. Then again, guys also have that art but, come on people, we all know women know how to seduce! lol
Theres a old saying: Once a player, always a player. Theres no way you can change someones ways. You must be a VERY VERY good catch to be able to change someone. Why go through the headache with a guy or girl player, find someone whose faithful. If you date a player, you will need to share them, I mean share them! body and everything! If you are not the jealous type, you are full of bullshit! lol
Case study number 2.
Relationships are mainly about putting the effort.
If one person is putting more effort than the other, the relationship wont last. A relationship is all about communication. Not just talking but understanding the other persons concerns etc. Many people think its just about listening, no! Its about having that trust!
If your guy or girl partner sucks in bed, thats a good reason to cheat. I'm not justifying it but thats one of the mains reasons people cheat. They want a fruitful sex life. Its a FACT! The key is this. If that other person does care about you, he or she will help you in your "lil problem" in the bed. now thats love.. With teamwork, you can accomplish a lot in a relationship. However, lets not fool ourselves, its rare that a couple will do this.. They must be really in love!
Case Study 3
To enter a relationship, both people must be on the same page. You cant be 60/40 in a relationship! never! It will piss the other person off! Do not fool yourself that time will make the other person like you, if they don't really want to be with you, it generally means, THEY DON'T! Do not push it! Thats why its best to take it slow. Get to know the persons habits. good or bad. Never rush into something serious because you dont really know the others persons intentions. Also, if you rush, you basically saying that you are sharing your life with someone else but you are being very stupid about it. Example, your best friends. it took time to establish that trust. Same thing with relationships. Give it a couple of months before entering something serious. The problem is that you might fall into the "friend zone" but i will speak about that later on in another blog.
Give it 2-4 months before getting in something serious. It depends also on how often you speak to that person. You also have to find out what kind of friends they have, family values.. all that BS we all need to find out sooner or later..lol
Basically, take it slow and be honest with the other person. Do not play games.... just in the bedroom.lol
Case Study 4. Beware of the Ex
Everyone has someone before you.its going to happen.. the key is not to get jealous but when your partner constantly talks about this person to you..thats a red flag my friend. Theres a reason there are an ex.. Thats the past.. If they weren't, why are they with you? Many guys and girls, are still hooked on their exes. The key is to understand what happened between them. Do not talk to your partner about it, but just look around. use common sense. theres a reason why they are an ex. Maybe your partner did something wrong, or the ex did.. these are very important questions to ask yourself.
again, dont get jealous, be understanding. Relationships are about two people, not a third party. If you are not looking for a relationship, then do not enter one. thats a simple rule to follow.
Case study 5. This I have heard a lot from many people.. its funny but sad.
To put it in plain words.. "The person who says this".... is a player, doesn't know what he or she wants..is just toying with you.. do not waste your time.
by the way, flirting is not cheating. Everyone flirts but once the flirt becomes too much..then thats cheating.. Do not get jealous..
so there you have it..
hope you enjoy.
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