5 general reasons why people cheat.

Lets see...why do people cheat?

5 case studies
1. Person is a player, just looking to have fun.
2. The other person is not doing their job.
3. The person was never looking for something serious. Other person was too aggressive.
4. they are not over their ex
5. My favorite, it just happened but you know I love you.

Lets look at case study number 1.

Players- a person who thinks he or she is the s***.

Before you enter a relationship, you must be able to know the other persons past. You DO NOT stalk them, but know something about their sexual life. Never enter a relationship blind, because you will end up heart broken. Its fairly easy to spot a player. For women, its easier to spot a guy player because we all know.. girls love to talk.
For guys, its a little bit harder, but we risk it. Women know how to keep secrets from men because they have the art of seduction. If a women is a true player, she will know how to hide her sexual encounters. Then again, guys also have that art but, come on people, we all know women know how to seduce! lol

Theres a old saying: Once a player, always a player. Theres no way you can change someones ways. You must be a VERY VERY good catch to be able to change someone. Why go through the headache with a guy or girl player, find someone whose faithful. If you date a player, you will need to share them, I mean share them! body and everything! If you are not the jealous type, you are full of bullshit! lol

Case study number 2.

Relationships are mainly about putting the effort.

If one person is putting more effort than the other, the relationship wont last. A relationship is all about communication. Not just talking but understanding the other persons concerns etc. Many people think its just about listening, no! Its about having that trust!

If your guy or girl partner sucks in bed, thats a good reason to cheat. I'm not justifying it but thats one of the mains reasons people cheat. They want a fruitful sex life. Its a FACT! The key is this. If that other person does care about you, he or she will help you in your "lil problem" in the bed. now thats love.. With teamwork, you can accomplish a lot in a relationship. However, lets not fool ourselves, its rare that a couple will do this.. They must be really in love!

Case Study 3

To enter a relationship, both people must be on the same page. You cant be 60/40 in a relationship! never! It will piss the other person off! Do not fool yourself that time will make the other person like you, if they don't really want to be with you, it generally means, THEY DON'T! Do not push it! Thats why its best to take it slow. Get to know the persons habits. good or bad. Never rush into something serious because you dont really know the others persons intentions. Also, if you rush, you basically saying that you are sharing your life with someone else but you are being very stupid about it. Example, your best friends. it took time to establish that trust. Same thing with relationships. Give it a couple of months before entering something serious. The problem is that you might fall into the "friend zone" but i will speak about that later on in another blog.
Give it 2-4 months before getting in something serious. It depends also on how often you speak to that person. You also have to find out what kind of friends they have, family values.. all that BS we all need to find out sooner or later..lol
Basically, take it slow and be honest with the other person. Do not play games.... just in the bedroom.lol

Case Study 4. Beware of the Ex

Everyone has someone before you.its going to happen.. the key is not to get jealous but when your partner constantly talks about this person to you..thats a red flag my friend. Theres a reason there are an ex.. Thats the past.. If they weren't, why are they with you? Many guys and girls, are still hooked on their exes. The key is to understand what happened between them. Do not talk to your partner about it, but just look around. use common sense. theres a reason why they are an ex. Maybe your partner did something wrong, or the ex did.. these are very important questions to ask yourself.
again, dont get jealous, be understanding. Relationships are about two people, not a third party. If you are not looking for a relationship, then do not enter one. thats a simple rule to follow.


Case study 5. This I have heard a lot from many people.. its funny but sad.

To put it in plain words.. "The person who says this".... is a player, doesn't know what he or she wants..is just toying with you.. do not waste your time.


by the way, flirting is not cheating. Everyone flirts but once the flirt becomes too much..then thats cheating.. Do not get jealous..

so there you have it..

hope you enjoy.

How to make a girl fall for you..The 5 general rules

Now guys listen up..if you looking just to have a "fun time" this is not for you. later on i will direct my attention to all those players out there.lol

So, first rule guys.. Do not stalk the girl. Theres nothing more creepy to a girl than a guy whose up her ass 24/7. Give her space. You can text her, call her however a girl prefers ONE text.thats all. let her respond. Do not send like 100 texts if she doesn't respond. If shes interested, she will respond. lol

Second rule. Show her you care. Text her good morning or good night. text her once in a while..just to see how shes doing.

Third Rule and one of the most important. If you really care about this girl. just talk to ONLY her. do not be a player. do not have back up plans. The reason I say this is because if you really get into something serious with the girl you interested in, what do you about the others? Try to avoid this dilemma guys! its not worth it. its funny but not worth it.

Fourth Rule. Do not be too aggressive. Ive had situations in which I was too aggressive and I messed up. Its not a pretty situation. Take it slow. Get to know the girl. Do not brag, ask her questions. Show her you really want to get to know her.

Fifth Rule. If none of these rules work, its not worth it dude. Depending on the situation, if you see that my rules are not working, then leave. If you see some progress, it up to you. When it comes to getting into something serious, its all about being PATIENT!. dont rush!

So there you go. rules for guys.
next blog will be about "signs of no interest"

How to make a guy fall for you? Three general rules to follow

Rule number one ladies. never ever. show too much interest in the guy you are interested in. To be honest, most guys see that as a major turn off because they see that as a easy win, and not as something that they needed to fight for. Men love to fight for what they want; therefore, make him wait for you. However, give the guy some signs that you interested, because if you don't, another girl will take him from you. The only expectation to this rule is if you don't really care about this guy, and you just looking for a "fun time".

Rule number two. Never give it up on the "official" first date-third date. That shows the guy that you are easy and that you are just like every girl out there. Do not get me wrong, guys want you but if you really want a guy to fall for you, you must follow this rule. Guys go crazy when a girl doesn't give him what he wants. Most guys, a least the ones that date a lot, are use to easy girls. So if you deny him the right to "have fun", you will make work harder. In the end, by him working harder, he might end up falling for you. Most of my close friends, who date alot will agree with me on this rule. For example, if a guy sleeps around with numerous women, what will be your perception of that guy? is he date able?

Rule number three. Dont play games! IF you are looking for a immature little boy, then play games.

However, if you are looking for a guy whose educated, has a sense of humor etc, please don't play games. These type of men are hard to find and if you play games, you will piss him off. It really depends on the type of guy you like but, for the most part, be honest with the guy, because later on in life. someone else in life will play games with you.

Well there you have it. the first blog..tell me what you think.